Five Minute Friday: See

Hello, Friends. Welcome back for another Friday spent with Lisa-Jo and the Five-minute crowd. Today, we’re taking five minutes to write on the prompt See. Do you have five minutes to write, read, or both? Why don’t you join us?

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community…

Today’s Prompt: See


I asked a friend what she hears most often when she counsels people. She said from the singles, she most often hears thoughts on loneliness, fear, and dissatisfaction. And then she said, “I hate to say it, but I think the same is true of the married folks too.”

I sat with her words for a while and I rolled them around in my hands, and when I felt the weight of them, I came to the conclusion that it must be true. But at the heart of it, what they never seem to say, is that–single or married or something in-between–we all just want to be seen. We want a friend, a partner, a co-worker, a sibling, or a spouse to look at us with eyes wide open and say “I see you.”

We want them to see more than our shoulder length hair or the spreadsheet we meticulously filled out. We want them to see past the clean dishes and the neatly folded laundry. Past the Christmas card update and the standard “I’m fine.” We want them to look deep into the underlying meaning of our words, and what makes our heart beat fast, and why we cry when we see that one commercial.

I know this is what I want. I want the people I love to see me through the work of my hands, but also through the work of my heart. I want to believe that I am worthy of the kind of love that says “I see you through every barrier you erect and the  filters you put in place and your infinite layers of crazy, and I love you still.”


Confession: it took me longer than five minutes, but I really wanted to finish my thought. Don’t hold it against me:)


  • Rachel

    No worries about taking more than 5 minutes. It is a beautiful thought and well worth more than 5 minutes. Thanks for sharing!
    BTW: My post took way more than 5 minutes. I was trying to write and entertain our 4 year old at the same time. It’s all a time of grace and seeing what’s really important! 🙂
    Thanks again for a beautiful post!

    • KimberlyCoyle

      I was trying to entertain my husband who was working from home;) Big kid, little kid, all the same:)

      • Rachel

        Heehee! 🙂

  • Valarie Portanova

    I’m so glad you did take a little extra time to finish your thought!

    • KimberlyCoyle

      Thanks for understanding, Valarie!

  • Lauren

    Love this – I could have written it 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

    • KimberlyCoyle

      Universal feeling, yes? Thanks for stopping by:)

  • Sharon O

    beautiful. I love this encouraging piece. good job.

    • KimberlyCoyle

      Thanks for reading, Sharon!

  • So true… and sometimes, after 5 years of marriage, I have to remember that there is Someone who sees past all my baggage and walls, always. Because sometimes, even when he tries, there’s too much to make sense of. But I’m never too much for God.

  • Leah Beecher

    That last line in quotes says it all. What a perfect post. Mine took 3 attempts over like 6 hours because I could not concentrate or string coherent thoughts together!


  • Beautiful post, Kimberly. I think the reason Facebook took off like it did is because everyone wants to, on some level, matter, to be seen, and heard. I’m thankful daily that I have a mate who has seen me at my worst and still loves me.

  • Mark Allman

    I think we all want to be needed and wanted; to know the ones we love want and need us in their lives and they communicate this.