Making Plans

“Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”
Proverbs 19:21
I feel caught in the middle when I read this verse. I understand it on a rational level, but when it comes to actually allowing this to take place in my life, it is a struggle. In talking to other women, I know that I am not alone in this. How do we allow God’s purpose prevail, and yet still make plans and dream dreams for our future?
Conventional wisdom would say, ” just seek the Lord’s purpose and follow it”. I, however, have found this to be about as easy as finding a needle in a haystack. So, I tried it the other way around. I made plans in my heart, and then asked the Lord about them. This sounded equally logical to me. Not so much. He was relatively silent on many of my suggestions.
There has always been a great tension between my plans and the Lord’s purpose for me. Finding the place where these two intersect has been a real struggle that has been coming to a head over the last year. I feel as if the two are so often disparate, and although my plans are a bit fuzzy, God’s are completely out of focus. So, how does one go about marrying their plans to the heart of God? Where is the sweet spot of having it all come together, when your dreams are an extension of God’s will for your life? My husband is of the notion that unless you hear a clear directive from the Lord, then you have the freedom to “play the field” in the game of life. This approach works well for him. For someone like myself (risk averse, afraid of failure, perfectionistic in nature) this doesn’t really translate well.
I am left feeling like I’m on a hamster wheel, going around and around, but never really getting anywhere. I don’t want to waste any more time on the wheel. I want to have a sense of purpose. I want the plans that God has made for me to be seamless with my own, so they are our plans. Mine and God’s.
Tell me, are you a “get in the game” type of person, or have you joined me on the hamster wheel? Where have you found the sweet spot of seeing yours and God’s plans become one?